Bullying and Bad Bosses
"A Bad Boss Creates Fear A Leader Confidence"
"What the Bloody F_ _ _ K do you think you are doing?" The screams coming from our confrence room were so loud that the walls in the office shook. I would shake and want to hide under my desk. Afraid I would be next, and I often was.
Our narcissistic British boss was bullying yet another target with both his verbal and out of control abusive actions. Everyone in our area heard every word of the torture going on behind closed doors. It was as if his only pleasure in life was bullying those who worked for him. HR was often present in the room and turned a blind eye to his screaming and shouting at the poor prey caught in his lion's den. After all, HR was being paid by him and did not stand up for the employees in the office. One goes where their bread is buttered.
Abusive supervision overlaps with workplace bullying in the workplace context. Research suggest that 75% of workplace bullying incidents are perpetrated by hierarchically superior agents of the company. The more I would stand up and stand strong against being bullied the more the humiliation and tortured treatment I received from management. It was as if bullying others was their life-blood. It even superceded their focus to the bottom line. Over 50% of all American workers report that they have been affected by workplace bullying, either being a target themselves or having witnessed abusive behavior against a co-worker.
"Workplace bullying is a persisitent pattern of mistreatment from others in the workplace that causes harm. It can include such tactics as verbal, nonverbal, psychological, physical abuse and humiliation. This type of workplace aggression is particularly difficult because, unlike the typical school bully, workplace bullies often operate within the established rules and policies of their organization and their society. In the majority of cases, bullying in the workplace is reported as having been by someone in authority over the target." Wikipedia
We as employees must stand up against this culture of fear. Leaders who exercise a tyrannical style of management, resulting in a climate of fear in the workpaced must be stopped and called out for their bad behavior. "The negative effects of bullying are so severe that posttraumatic stress disorder(PTSD) and even suicide are not uncommon" according to Dr. Gary Namie.
I know this as a fact. I suffer now with PTSD, panic attacks, and attempted suicide at my desk when I just could not take their abuse and bullying to me anylonger. Please never let your life get so out of control that you try self-harm. NEVER GIVE ANY BAD BOSS OR PERSON YOUR PERSONAL POWER. NO ONE HAS POWER OVER YOU. YOU HOLD ALL THE POWER OVER YOURSELF. GO FOR HELP. FIGHT BACK WITH THE COMPANY LATER. YOUR LIFE MATTERS. ALWAYS CALL 911 FOR HELP.